“I want to be told what to do so coaching is not for me. It is too wishy-washy.”
An assertive and valid point of view recounted to me last week. Absolutely, I agree that coaching is not for everyone but I still had to resist my inner desire to try and acquaint synonyms of weak, watery, feeble and insipid to my own experience of coaching which is one of strength, assurance, independence and growth. I then had to resist the urge again to want to convince my colleague of another interpretation.
Coaching versus Mentoring: The differences
The seemingly interchangeable terms of mentoring and coaching still abound in schools. There are times when staff require and need a mentor. They desire someone who will give them advice and be instructional where required. Many staff would like a mentor at school for that purpose.
Coaching, on the other hand, is when you really want to develop your member of staff to be a leader: to take greater accountability perhaps: to initiate change or action; to fine-tune or become aware of how behaviours of themselves and others are impacting upon efficiencies, whatever they may be. The emphasis of it is on understanding the self in practice: working out how and why our psycho-cultural norms constrain the way we see ourselves amongst others. And sometimes we just want to be told what to do.